Ah. Haven't update in sooo long. It wasn't because I didn't have anything to write, it's just... not the right place. I don't believe in complaining or posting pessimistic stuffs here anymore because most people would either deny them by not reading at all or worst, be influenced by the energy~~

Well well well, anyway I still want to do some reflections, or in other words subtle complaining (I know I sounded like I just contradicted myself, but don't worry I am not gonna complain with angst).

I am allergic to people who are lack of these three "senses": sensibility, sensitivity and common sense. Sigh. Aren't they self-explanatory...?? I mean, I can understand if it happens once in a blue moon accidentally, but if it often and worst, done on purpose, ... ... ... (still speechless because I don't really want to imagine)

Case 1: when people are critical and skeptical, or too not critical nor skeptical.I do understand that everyone's comment are good feedback for human. They are people who thinks that being frank is the best way to get the message across, and then other who thinks that being tactful is the most considerate way. But when comments are biased or too straightforward, in a good or bad way, they don't serve any purpose.

If a comment is too negatively biased or straightforward, wouldn't the receiver feel condemned? I am sure there are times when people tells you, "You did badly, you didn't meet the expectations." Especially when people categorise you according to your occupation or qualifications. (I personally think celebrities experience this the most.) Oh please, no one have to live under anyone's prejudice, or anyone's personal mindset and opinions. Worst, there are also people who, when asked for comments, comment badly just for the sake of commenting...

If a comment is too positively biased or straightforward, wouldn't the receiver be deluded? I believe there is a need to have a balance in the three senses. Being very positive may be sensitive but it is not sensible! Isn't that why fan girls' comment are often worthless, because the content would be bias hahahaha~

(Other than when I am fangirling~) I believe in giving neutral comments with neutral words!

Case 2: There really is a thin line between being nice and hypocritical. Like you know... when people sugar-coat their words so that you won't be defensive and so that their desired outcome would be achieved... Like when you did nothing much in a project then someone comes and tell you, "Hey do you want to do this? You didn't say if you want to or not so I thought you might want to." Yes yes, indeed, my first impression would probably be:
"Ahhh that's nice of you to consider my feelings and to make me feel involved." (^-^)
But after deep thinking:
"Actually the underlying meaning is 'Stop free-riding and do something!', right?" (= =)|||
Haha okay sorry a bit too drama. (._.)

Case 3: There are also times when I feel that people around me are experiencing self-serving bias, except that they are partly "serving" me in the bias. Take for example, if someone an idea for your project, then your idea wasn't graded highly, that person may say, "Oh... I don't think it's your fault, must be your luck or the teacher's standard of judgement!" Even though you may take it as your friend comforting you, but it may be self-serving for your friend, subconsciously or not, because after all it was still his/her idea you used.

I wonder if I am reading too much in between the lines sometimes.... (>_<)


PS: I really slept too much yesterday )))':

Labels: Free-Writing, Thoughts

Ah. Haven't update in sooo long. It wasn't because I didn't have anything to write, it's just... not the right place. I don't believe in complaining or posting pessimistic stuffs here anymore because most people would either deny them by not reading at all or worst, be influenced by the energy~~

Well well well, anyway I still want to do some reflections, or in other words subtle complaining (I know I sounded like I just contradicted myself, but don't worry I am not gonna complain with angst).

I am allergic to people who are lack of these three "senses": sensibility, sensitivity and common sense. Sigh. Aren't they self-explanatory...?? I mean, I can understand if it happens once in a blue moon accidentally, but if it often and worst, done on purpose, ... ... ... (still speechless because I don't really want to imagine)

Case 1: when people are critical and skeptical, or too not critical nor skeptical.I do understand that everyone's comment are good feedback for human. They are people who thinks that being frank is the best way to get the message across, and then other who thinks that being tactful is the most considerate way. But when comments are biased or too straightforward, in a good or bad way, they don't serve any purpose.

If a comment is too negatively biased or straightforward, wouldn't the receiver feel condemned? I am sure there are times when people tells you, "You did badly, you didn't meet the expectations." Especially when people categorise you according to your occupation or qualifications. (I personally think celebrities experience this the most.) Oh please, no one have to live under anyone's prejudice, or anyone's personal mindset and opinions. Worst, there are also people who, when asked for comments, comment badly just for the sake of commenting...

If a comment is too positively biased or straightforward, wouldn't the receiver be deluded? I believe there is a need to have a balance in the three senses. Being very positive may be sensitive but it is not sensible! Isn't that why fan girls' comment are often worthless, because the content would be bias hahahaha~

(Other than when I am fangirling~) I believe in giving neutral comments with neutral words!

Case 2: There really is a thin line between being nice and hypocritical. Like you know... when people sugar-coat their words so that you won't be defensive and so that their desired outcome would be achieved... Like when you did nothing much in a project then someone comes and tell you, "Hey do you want to do this? You didn't say if you want to or not so I thought you might want to." Yes yes, indeed, my first impression would probably be:
"Ahhh that's nice of you to consider my feelings and to make me feel involved." (^-^)
But after deep thinking:
"Actually the underlying meaning is 'Stop free-riding and do something!', right?" (= =)|||
Haha okay sorry a bit too drama. (._.)

Case 3: There are also times when I feel that people around me are experiencing self-serving bias, except that they are partly "serving" me in the bias. Take for example, if someone an idea for your project, then your idea wasn't graded highly, that person may say, "Oh... I don't think it's your fault, must be your luck or the teacher's standard of judgement!" Even though you may take it as your friend comforting you, but it may be self-serving for your friend, subconsciously or not, because after all it was still his/her idea you used.

I wonder if I am reading too much in between the lines sometimes.... (>_<)


PS: I really slept too much yesterday )))':

Labels: Free-Writing, Thoughts